God Designed Marriage to Satisfy Needs:
Man needed a companion. Humans have a social nature that craves companionship. People naturally crave meaningful relationships. God in His infinite wisdom knew this from the very beginning.
And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." (Gen 2:18-19 NKJV)
We need a companion for fellowship and communication. Communication is important, and is a built-in need of every person. We desire someone to talk to. Someone to share hopes, dreams, joys and yes, even sorrows with.
Man needs a completer. God used the term “helper” when he created the companion for man. A companion to provide fellowship, sure, but more than that.
Another human specifically designed by nature to provide assistance, to help him, and to make up those parts of him which make him whole.
That other human being would be like him, but yet unlike him. Opposite, in many ways, both physically and emotionally. Opposite but complementary.
It is no accident of wording that God said, “they will become one flesh.” The two joined together make a whole. Parts were missing and this was not a defect of creation on God’s part.
He intended it to be such. The woman is what is missing in the man, and the man is what is missing in the woman.
The differences in temperament and interests between them are complemented by the addition of the other. In many ways they are opposites, and in nature, opposites do indeed attract.
A good wife will fill in his weak spots. A good husband will let her fill those weak spots.
The reverse is equally true as it applies to the woman.
Men And Women Are Not the Same
Man
- Achiever
- Work Oriented
- More Independent
- Provides for Children
- More Rational
Woman
- Helper
- Home Oriented
- More Dependent
- Produces Children
- More Emotional
Or as the French say, “Vive la Difference!” and we men say, “Amen to that!”
Some will object to that division pointing out the differences. In some areas, there will be some overlap of characteristics. Either one can be by nature an achiever. Or work oriented. Or more independent. Or more rational, or more emotional.
Women have become more independent as society and the culture changes. And in many cases men have taken on roles which are more, shall we call, “domestic.”
The differences between men and women don’t always fall into rigid descriptions. There is a degree of crossover at times. Some women may be higher achievers than their male counterparts for example.
Some women may be less dependent and more work oriented. Some men may be more emotional and less rational, or more home oriented. In general however, these traits are unique to the genders.
The World seeks to distort the differences between men and women, and to even go as far as to remove the differences.
But God’s Word defines what a man is, and what a woman is. And God’s Word defines marriage. That is the source we adhere to. And that source only.